Presence

I have a little granddaughter who I adore and who has taught me a profound lesson this week.  When I’m with Hannah, it is hard to do anything other than be with Hannah. When she wakes from her nap, she calls out… “Grammie, Grammie”, demanding my presence and letting me know that I’m “on” and she is ready.  In her two year old, fierce way, she demands that I be totally present with her and I realize that being present with her has built a connection that is incredibly strong and meaningful and . . .   I absolutely love it.  

I’ve been attempting to be more present for myself  and for others in my life.  People often ask me if I’m as busy in retirement as I was before?  Well, I certainly hope not!  My goal in retiring early has been to “Be” more, not to “Do” more.    I’ve lived the life of multi-tasking, getting lots done, working constantly, living by my calendar and loving the check marks on my many “to do” lists. I know where it all can lead.  For me, it eventually lead to burn-out and a general sense of unfulfillment and yet . . . I know that this type of hustle is the norm for so many people and particularly for women who juggle it all. 

It is hard to think about being present for myself with the same ferocity that Hannah has as she demands my attention, but if I could….. Wow.  Being more present in life has benefits that are hard to imagine.  According to research from Harvard University, you are happier when you are present, and the ones you are with experience a greater sense of well-being.  A stronger sense of connection is created when we are truly focused on and present with those around us.  Being truly present means no inner dialogue that is constantly running, telling us things like “I’ve already heard this, I need to check that text, or what is my next appointment?”  The idea of “being”  has amazing implications for CEO’s as well as a grandma trying to create a meaningful connection with her 2 year old granddaughter.  

Slowing down and “being” starts with quieting your mind and your thoughts.  It means you begin to understand your thoughts and  you love yourself anyway. It gives you the chance to deepen connections  with those you love and it gives you the opportunity to love the life you have created.  

If you are looking for support as you do this… I would love to be your coach!