Rethinking things…

The other day, I was asked to speak to a small group of teenagers about how our thoughts create our feelings.  The idea was to help them pause before reacting, which is, I am finding, a lifelong pursuit.  In other words, some days are better than others.  I was pretty well prepared for the presentation and I really do have a soft spot for teenagers, so I thought things would go well.  Ugh, I didn’t feel like it went very well at all..  The kids were chatty, (not horrible, but just like teenagers sometimes are), I thought the examples I gave felt flat, worst of all…. I didn’t think the kids were understanding what in the world I was saying. I drove home sort of bummed out.  That feeling stuck with me a bit during the rest of that day.  What does one do when feeling like that?  Nothing. I was in slow motion and sort of tired for the rest of the day.  That  little dark cloud hung over my head until the next morning.  At Pickleball, one of the women I played with had a daughter who was in the presentation the day before.  She couldn't wait to tell me how much the presentation  spurred conversation in her home the night before.  Later that day, I heard from another parent who thanked me for helping her son, and that night a text from a new prospective client.  What???  Was it possible that others saw things differently than I did?   

I felt so dumb.  Perhaps I need a Life Coach.  I was creating the feelings I was having, not  the presentation or the kids or whatever else.  It was what I thought about the presentation that created my dark cloud.  I hadn’t  seen that at all. Life Coaching is like a mirror for your thoughts.  It helps you see what is hard to see on your own.  These tools allow me to create more happiness and joy, and they also limit the pain I create for myself.  I’m rethinking things. 

Luckily, I keep learning.  You can too.  

Call me if I can help,

Kathie